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There is no single way to every woman¡¯s heart: you need to find out what she is like first and then adapt your strategies accordingly. But what is the right strategy? The Chosun Ilbo takes a look at the received wisdom and what really works according to the personality of the girl of your dreams.
Cute, charming, sweet girls
People are tempted to indulge their every whim, since cute girls often tease, make demands and clamor for attention. But dating veterans say that such women don¡¯t find men they can twist around their little finger all that attractive. Perversely, they tend to prefer men who are brusque and unresponsive to their charms. But be careful not to overdo it; once she shows an interest in you, you should be able to clinch the subtle tug of war by saying, ¡°Actually, I like you too.¡±
The haughty type
Haughty women scare many men away. It is unthinkable to ask them for a date outright unless you have nerves of steel: so go slowly, you might think, take care not to irritate her, bide your time¡¦ Wrong, say dating experts. Arrogant women have a very high opinion of themselves, so they will like men who think likewise. Expensive gifts, fine dining, determination: these are the ways to the haughty beauty¡¯s heart. Such women are drawn to men who treat them as if they are the best thing in the world, so they can feel proud of themselves.
The no-nonsense cynic
Again, when confronted with a woman who has heard it all before, some men think they should go slowly and be careful not to make them feel irritable. If the girl is cynical about love, then she will think of any romantic gesture as a ploy. But again you¡¯d be wrong. One cynic in a relationship is quite enough: what is needed is someone determined to melt the frozen heart. Men need to show that they understand her feelings and thoughts and treat them gently and sweetly.
The tough cookie
The received wisdom is that you need to make them feel comfortable by acting like a good friend and just ask them casually at some point, ¡°Do you want to start dating me?¡± But the experts know better: here is a woman who secretly yearns for romance, they say, and nothing will win her over faster than when someone at long last treats her like a lady.
The considerate, attentive kind
Here the experts agree with the received wisdom: these girls were born to love others. The best way to attract them is to appeal to their maternal instinct. When you show them how vulnerable you are, how much you need taking care of, they will be putty in your hands. All you need to do is make her feel that you can¡¯t live without her.
(englishnews@chosun.com )
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