1. Can’t get started? The helpless type

Do you feel you simply don’t have the looks to attract the attention of men? Do you feel you lack the charm to make up for it? Stand before a mirror and try to find your attractive points. Appearance, attitude, speech -- look carefully: there is bound to be something you like about yourself. Do what you can about your appearance and ask friends with many boyfriends for advice. Or are you just going to sit there and accept your fate?

2. Girls who hang everything on first impressions

So many men dismissed because they made a bad first impression… Give them a break. You never know if a frog will transform himself into a charming prince on closer acquaintance. Even if the first impression isn’t all that favorable, you need to meet at least once again to find out if there isn’t more to them than meets the eye. Most people who form a romantic relationship start with unpromising material.

3. The stubborn type with a list of conditions

Hung up on looks, family background, prospects or educational background? Women who don’t consider what they themselves bring to the table and worry only if their prospective partner conforms to their expectations find it difficult to fall in love. But even in the love business, you must adjust to the difference between the ideal and reality.

4. Those who wait around for that certain feeling

“The guy is OK, but the feelings just aren’t there.” Those who wait around for Mr. Right to sweep them off their feet may wake up one day to find that years have passed and they are still waiting. Meanwhile, others not on the lookout for the lightning strike are happily hooked. Love, as the song says, takes time.

5. Just can’t stick to one guy

Women whose hearts go from one guy to the other each time the wind changes direction, who like this man one day and that one the next, acquire what used to be called a “reputation” over time. In the end, no matter how pretty you are, nobody will take their chances.

6. Fear of failure: the bipolar type

There are women who consider love and marriage two separate things, and who are so afraid of failure that they have a hard time even starting a relationship. They are women who, as soon as they become close to someone, always end up running away. Stop being afraid. Even love takes practice.

7. The self-tormenting type

Even though their boyfriends don’t say a word about it, these women always thinks to themselves, “‘Why am I so ugly?” or, “There’s no way a guy could like me.” If a man asks one of these self-torturing women if she wants to meet for a cup of coffee, she will most likely think, “Why, of all the girls here, would he choose me? Is he just playing with me?” If the man treats her well, or starts to show affection, she will feel pressured and start to treat him coldly, and as a result both slip further into their insecurities. You have to try and love yourself first.

8. The flower that waits for the butterfly

Some women simply wait around until her ideal man comes knocking on the front door. But full many a flower is born to blush unseen, says the poet, and waste its sweetness on the desert air. Very few people get what they want by just hanging around for it to happen. Ask yourself, “What kind of efforts have I made to find the right guy?”

9. The man-eater

To be sure, men like a sexy girl. But too much sex appeal can have a negative effect. Spare a thought for the boys: a blowsy, sexually assertive woman will scare too many of them away. By all means be sexy; just don’t go overboard.

(englishnews@chosun.com )